Divorce can be overwhelming to couples for a multitude of reasons. It may be a person's first time dealing with divorce or one party may not even have expected the divorce. And the uncertainties of the future can be overwhelming. Divorces are inevitably complicated, and solutions are often not immediately apparent.
To cope with these struggles, a person may turn to friends and family for support. But friends and family may not be the best people to counsel on these matters. Friends and family typically want to protect their loved one and may want the person to accept an immediate pay-off without focusing on a long time financial plan. This short-sighted approach might backfire on the person.
When dealing with issues related to child custody, child support and alimony, both spouses might feel they are at a disadvantage. While one person might feel that they are being held hostage in the marriage, the other spouse might feel that they were not given enough time to analyze the situation and make proper decisions.
To solve most issues related to separation, the couple can resort to divorce mediation. This option might be less stressful for the couple and allow them to make decisions without affecting the family relationship. In such a scenario, the couple engages a mediator, who remains neutral to both parties. The mediator facilitates discussions between the couple and helps them reach an agreement that best serves the family. And each spouse may retain individual attorneys during the mediation process to ensure that their rights are not compromised.
Source: Huffington Post, "9 Things You Can Expect During Your Divorce," Elinor Robin, July 10, 2014