Divorce in the United States, including in New York, need not always be an emotional affair with both partners engaging in a war of words. Soon-to-be divorced partners can behave cordially and when they do, divorce mediation is a viable option. A couple needs to prepare for the divorce mediation process and a couple needs to follow certain tips before the first mediation session.
Before appearing for the first divorce mediation session, a couple needs to organize all relevant financial documents. You need to make a list of all your financial assets, such as bank accounts, brokerage accounts, retirement funds and real estate. The total amount available in all bank accounts and brokerage accounts must be included, as well. Debts also must be listed, including car loans, credit card debts and loan balances. You should always keep your future budget in mind during the divorce mediation process.
Because divorce mediation is essentially a negotiation process, you need to approach the entire process with a cool head and keep your emotions under control. This is clearly not the time for engaging in hurtful words. It is best to be prepared for negotiation, not arguments. This is your time to move on in life.
During the process, most mediators will allow you to have an exclusive chat with the mediator to address your specific concerns. It is often wise to hire an attorney who is non-adversarial in nature. If you feel that your attorney is leading you toward a path of litigation, you may ask your mediator for a referral.
Source: The Huffington Post, "How to Prepare for Your First Mediation Session -- Your Eight Steps Plan," Michelle Rogan, accessed Dec. 17, 2014