The holiday season often plays an important role for spouses in a marriage on the ropes. With parties and dinners among family and friends, it is often difficult to hide any animosity or friction between each spouse during these times. If children are involved, the spouses may try to seem like everything is copasetic in an effort to not spoil the holidays for the kids. And then real moment of truth often comes on New Year's Eve, a time often spent reflecting on the past year and looking forward and determining what the future brings.
While the holidays may help bond and repair a fractured or damaged marriage, for many couples it becomes even more apparent that the relationship is not working and is beyond repair and that divorce is best for all parties involved. That is why, among many in the industry, January is dubbed "Divorce Month."
James McLaren, President of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, echoes this belief. "We see a significant increase in people seeking out divorce advice and, ultimately, filing," he said, and the stats confirm this. He says that divorce filings are typically more than one third higher than normal in the month of January, and the increase continues through March.
For many couples, the holidays represent one final year together as a family, before they succumb to "New Year's Resolution Syndrome", a time when struggling couples admit that the marriage has failed, and move on. Of course, once it has been determined, the process begins, including decisions that need to be made either among the divorcing spouses or through the courts if they cannot agree on issues such as child custody, child support, spousal support or alimony, and property division. For couples who decide to divorce, things may initially be difficult, but they can get some comfort in knowing that once the divorce has been processed, their future may bring brighter and happier times for all parties involved.