Many couples will be dealing with difficult issues in a divorce, including child custody determinations, child support, alimony and dividing the couples' assets and debts. During the marriage, all of these issues were shared, but during the divorce process, people quickly realize that dividing one life into two separate lives is not always an easy task.
Couples generally have two basic options when deciding how to resolve these issues. One is that they present their cases to a judge who makes all the decisions for them. The couple is then stuck with those decisions, whether they like them or not. The other option is that they eventually reach agreements on how to settle the issues. However, in many instances, it is not just as easy as having a conversation. Many couples will need to utilize divorce mediation to help assist them in reaching agreements.
There are also certain things that the couple can do before and during the mediation to help it be successful. One is to make sure that the couple pick a day when they have plenty of time to work through the issues. People should also ask many questions to ensure that they understand the other person's position and potentially what they would be agreeing to. Another is that people need to be open to compromise and not simply be there to air their grievances. People should also bring financial documents if they are discussing finances. People also need to know their rights before making any agreements.
It is not an easy process to go through a divorce in New York. People need to make major decisions during what is usually a very emotional time. Sometimes, reaching agreements is not on the forefront of their minds. So, to assist people in reaching these agreements, couples may find divorce mediation to be a useful tool.