Unhealthy amounts of stress can impact a marriage so deeply that the relationship results in divorce.
The divorce itself presents even more stress, which can all add up to serious physical and mental health concerns. Whether you are considering divorce, divorcing or adjusting to life after divorce, these relaxation tips can help you reduce your stress to make the transition easier.
Issues that make us mad, anxious or upset have a tendency to replay in our minds over and over. Most of the time, our concern for these issues focuses on the future - something that will or may happen - or the past - something that has already happened.
Doing activities that force your mind to focus on what is happening in the present can help discard these worries and the harmful physical and mental effects they cause. To bring your mind back to the present, try focusing on:
- Deep breathing
Exercise is another great way to stay in the present. Physical activity also produces endorphins and improves your ability to sleep. Both these factors help reduce unhealthy stress.
Spend time with your pet
Countless studies have demonstrated the positive effects that can come of the companionship and responsibility a pet brings. Caring for a pet helps us feel needed and unconditionally loved during a time when we may be feeling down.
Social support from friends and family helps many people work through identifying what causes their stress and how they are reacting to it. More social activity may also help those struggling through a divorce feel a sense of belonging and self-worth.
While high levels of stress can make sleeping more difficult, getting a full night's rest (between seven and nine hours) can significantly reduce stress and clear your mind.
If your divorce can be handled amicably, you may avoid stress by choosing mediation. Mediation is a process in which one or multiple professionals mediate between you and your ex-spouse as you work through divorce issues. The mediator offers a non-bias perspective and helps keep peace, focus, and time limitations during your sessions.
Be prepared for your divorce
Getting help from a divorce attorney is another excellent way to reduce your stress. A lawyer will help you get the wheels in motion on your divorce and allow you to forget the stresses of complex legal proceedings. With your attorney by your side, you'll be prepared with necessary documentation and a strategy.