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Mediators cannot pick sides in a divorce mediation

People in New York have many stressful moments throughout their marriages. These stressful situations can lead to fights and disagreements, which sometimes become too much to overcome. These situations may lead to divorces, which generally are just as stressful if not more stressful than the situations that arose during the marriage. Not surprisingly divorce can also lead to many more disagreements and fights as well.

How to have a successful divorce mediation

Many couples will be dealing with difficult issues in a divorce, including child custody determinations, child support, alimony and dividing the couples' assets and debts. During the marriage, all of these issues were shared, but during the divorce process, people quickly realize that dividing one life into two separate lives is not always an easy task.

Using divorce mediation to equitably divide assets in a divorce

Over time couples in New York tend to acquire more and more assets. These assets could just be various household goods, tools and other stuff that ends up in storage in garages and basements. Couples also acquire and grow more valuable assets, such as bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, collectibles and other valuable monetary assets. The more assets a couple acquires during the marriage, the more it can make dividing these assets more difficult if they divorce.

Role of the mediator vs. role of attorneys in divorce mediation

Our readers may know from previous posts here that divorce mediation may be a useful tool for many couples who are going through a divorce. There are many decisions that need to be made about their children, finances and other issues. Since, in most divorce cases, things are not going smoothly for the couple to begin with, addressing these issues can be difficult. But, a mediator may be able to help a couple reach agreements even in very contentious situations.

When divorce mediation may not be the best option

Usually there are a number of problems that arise before a couple actually decides to divorce and, once they do, in many situations there can be a lot of animosity between them. Even in these cases, the couples may still be able to reach agreements, but they may need the assistance of a third-party neutral mediator to assist them in a divorce mediation. This is an option for many couples, but there are certain situations when divorce mediation is not a good option.

Mediators in divorce mediation must keep information confidential

Some people in New York really like to keep their information private. People make sure that others do not have access to emails, text messages, bank accounts, credit cards and many other aspects of their lives, and usually do not like other people to know their exact financial situation or know about the problems they are having with a spouse or their children. However, in certain situations, these issues could become public knowledge.

Helping couples reach agreements in divorce

There are many reasons that people in New York go through divorces. There may be infidelities by one of the spouse, there could be emotional or physical abuse, substance abuse issues or the couple may simply no longer love each other and need to end the relationship. However, no matter why a couple may divorce, there is one thing in common in most divorces: the couple is no longer getting along with each other. This can make the divorce process much more difficult and contentious.

Divorce mediation can be useful in a high conflict divorce

When people are going through a divorce, generally there is some level of conflict and negative emotions. People do not get divorced when things are going well and each person is happy. They occur when people are upset with each other and things are not going smoothly. Divorces are also emotional times for the people involved, as they used to love the other person and also may have children. Splitting up a family like this is never easy, even in situations when it may be best in the long run.

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