While going through a divorce can be a stressful time in a person's life, many couples in White Plains may want to try to put their differences behind them and hammer out an agreement out-of-court. One way they can do this is through mediation. However, it is important to plan for mediation ahead of time, to increase the chance that it will be successful.
First, even those utilizing mediation will find that the divorce process is still an emotional one. After all, having to talk about child custody, financial issues and, in general, the failed marriage, can bring up a whole host of emotions. If the mediation process is becoming emotional in a way that might shut it down, the parties should remember that it's perfectly acceptable to stop the process momentarily and take a quick break.
Also, it is important to have your financial information on hand before the mediation process starts. This can streamline the process of making financial decisions. After all, to make a sound decision, it is important to have accurate facts on hand.
In addition, the mediation process involves a lot of back-and-forth with regards to conversations, so it is important to remember that you are going to have to listen to your soon-to-be ex-spouse's concerns and opinions. Keep in mind that just like you want your own opinions addressed, so too are you going to have to accept that your soon-to-be ex-spouse wants the same thing. It's better to work together.
Finally, keep in mind that while mediation can be a helpful way to resolve disputes, each party's end goals may not be the same. It's one thing to imagine your ideal outcome, but it is important to understand that there may be other outcomes that could also be satisfactory.
In the end, mediation can be a good way for couples to reach an amicable agreement on their divorce issues. However, just because they agree to mediate these issues does not mean a person should not seek legal advice. The advice of an attorney can be very helpful to those going through mediation, so they can understand their rights and options. This can go a long way in ensuring that the ultimate agreement is fair to all involved.
Source: Mediate.com, "Doing Your Homework Before Mediation: Increasing the Likelihood of Success," Sarah Malik, Aug. 2017